"I didn't know how I was going to meet someone, especially when with what little free time I had I wanted to spend it with my friends." Heeding advice from friends living in New York City, Allison turned to the Internet.
"There weren't a lot of people using the Internet to date back then," she says.
Some 66% of online daters have gone on a date with someone they met through an online dating site or app, up from 43% of online daters who had done so when we first asked this question in 2005.
In 2000, Brenda Allison graduated from law school and moved to Chicago.
But as Valentine’s Day gets closer, we want to warn you that criminals use these sites, too, looking to turn the lonely and vulnerable into fast money through a variety of scams.
These criminals—who also troll social media sites and chat rooms in search of romantic victims—usually claim to be Americans traveling or working abroad. Their most common targets are women over 40 who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled, but every age group and demographic is at risk. You’re contacted online by someone who appears interested in you.
Some 22% of 25-34 year olds and 17% of 35-44 year olds are online daters.
Online dating is also relatively popular among the college-educated, as well as among urban and suburban residents.
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Millions of Americans visit online dating websites every year hoping to find a companion or even a soulmate.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.